It’s not rare for me to receive a call from a desperate man wanting to talk to me about his marriage. It’s happened dozens of times down through the years. It’s a classic situation; husband’s thinking everything is fine and, totally out of the blue, the wife tells him she’s done. He’s devastated, doesn’t know what to do and is looking for help of any kind. I nearly always have a sympathetic heart for these guys……unless, of course, I have information that would make me feel otherwise, say, if I know he’s been unfaithful, neglectful or abusive or something like that. But even at that there’s always two sides to every story and the blame hardly ever lands on just one party.
All of a sudden the guy gets serious about the Lord, maybe for the first time in his life. That’s a very good thing, I wouldn’t argue that point at all. He finally sees the error of his ways. He’s usually very humble, most often emotionally broken and vocal about begging God to save his marriage. It’s a hard spot to be in, no question. I’ve found myself giving this advice more than a few times. “If you’re just running to God so He’ll fix your marriage, I don’t know if it’ll happen or not. But, if you’re running to Him so he’ll fix you…..I’ll guarantee He’ll do that….and He just might fix your marriage in the process!”
So, rather than running to Him so He’ll fix your situation……why don’t you run to Him and ask Him to fix you?!